8Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting for those who belong to the Lord. 19Husbands, love your wives and never treat them harshly. 20Children, always obey your parents, for this pleases the Lord.
The greek & hebrew rendering of verse 8 is this Wives gunh <gune>, submit yourselves upotassw <hupotasso> unto your own idiov <idios> husbands aner <aner>, as wv <hos> it is fit anhkw <aneko> in en <en> the Lord kuriov <kurios>.
The greek word hupotasso means to subordinate; reflexively, to obey:--be under obedience (obedient), put under, subdue unto, (be, make) subject (to, unto), be (put) in subjection (to, under), submit self unto. Reflexively is an adjective used to describe how the verb submit should be done and it means as a reflex, without conscious thought; automatically. Wow!
Wives are to automatically, without conscious thought obey and put themselves in subjection to their husbands. The default posture and response of wives in the Lord is that of automatic obedience. An automatic car is different from a manual car in that the driver doesn’t have to exert any pressure, thought or effort to move the car into different gears. No mental or physical energy is required, the car knows what the driver needs and moves into position automatically. That is the same posture God expects godly women to have, automatically submit without cajoling, forcing or pressuring.
The other part of verse 8 gives the motivation for this posture; in the Lord. The greek word used to describe God in this verse kurios means supreme in authority, i.e. (as noun) controller; by implication, Master (as a respectful title):-- God, Lord, master, Sir. God is given to use here as Lord, one supreme in authority. Thus we submit under the reverence of our Lord, the one with supreme authority.
This verse is as important to single women as it is to married women. The import of this verse should be properly digested while one is in their single season. I personally have taken time to study about submission in marriage and checked it with myself, my personality, my desires and my reverence for God and I have come to a conclusion which I believe should be a warning to all single women.
Do not marry someone you can not automatically obey. You must be able to trust this person’s leadership, guidance and opinions blindly. While single, how does this person make decisions? Is he rational and clear in his decision making process or does he have some serious biases? What are his values and belief systems? Does he consult God in his decision making and to what extent? Does he just ask God to bless his decisions or does he wait for God’s instructions before he makes decisions? Does he listen to godly counsel and as an extension to that does he have strong connections - family, friends, parents who can give him advice and to whom he listens to? Have you found it easy to convince him to take an alternative approach before? Does he listen t your advice or does he believe he is always right?
These questions and many more should remain in your mind as you consider your future as a wife. Submission is a God given instruction that must be obeyed, irrespective of who you got married to. You as a godly woman, who will stand before God alone to face judgement for all your actions must obey this command whether you are married to an angel or a lunatic. Women of God, Marry wisely!
It is the man’s prerogative to love his wife and children to obey their parents in all things. The emphasis is placed on children and not adults. As adults, we take our parents advice and then make our own decisions.